Marriage is HARD!
Does this picture remind you of what you experience in your marriage?
I received a text from a friend (who I LOVE more than she knows) on Friday. Here is an excerpt:
"I hate to share over text, but I am asking for prayer for my family. My husband and I filed for divorce yesterday. I need no coddling, as most of this rests upon my shoulders."
I desperately prayed for this precious family and could not stop crying. I shared the text with Justin and we were both heart broken.
Heartbroken for our friends, for their kids and for the continued hurt everyone will endure through the divorce process and after the divorce is final.
I come from a divorced home. I've experienced the consequences and hurt that lay ahead for their precious children.
This has been a long time coming and no surprise to anyone who knows them. We (her friends) have pleaded with her in the past not to do this, so this time I am persisting in prayer.
Thanks (not really) to social media (Facebook and Twitter), I also suspect that a couple I grew up with is separated after 30+ years of marriage.
This is a WAKE UP call for me. Justin is a GREAT husband and we have a good marriage. Through this, I am reminded that we (meaning everyone) are only a few decisions, reactions, etc. away from divorce.
I told Justin that I want to fight for our marriage. His response, "What exactly does that mean?" (I am the worst at using cliches and he is awesome at calling me out. I love him for that.)
I didn't know how to answer him, but now I do.
It means I want to fight my selfishness, impatient attitude and tendency to withhold forgiveness. (There are a million other things I could add to this list!)
I want to somehow find joy (or the humor) and be thankful that I have the opportunity pick up his underwear and dirty clothes he leaves on the floor next to the hamper. (Oh the "joys" of marriage, queue my LAUGHTER :)
I want to love him deeper than I did in this picture.
I want to FIGHT against the "little foxes that ruin the vineyards", as Solomon puts it in Song of Solomon 2:15.
What do you think "Fight for Your Marriage" means?
Do you fight for your marriage?
What are some things you do "fight" against the little foxes?
Please leave a comment, I'd love to hear!